Like many adult children of alcoholics and other people who’ve grown up in chaotic, dysfunctional environments, I’ve landed in grownup land in a helper role. I am the go-to person when there’s a problem.
It’s super difficult for me to recognize when doing or not doing something is TERRIBLE for me because it’s usually wonderful for other people. I don’t think of the impact on me, organically. I’ve had to train my brain to consider me in the decision making. In my ACoA healing journey, I’ve recognized that the best decisions I’ve made in my life felt wrong – really selfish and against my sense of duty to save the day for everyone.
Since I know that my only responsibility in life is to take good care of me, I think of this simple decision question to help me make decisions:
Is this good for me?
If yes, do it.
If no, don’t it.
No matter how it feels.
I hope you are well. As always, take good care.