How to Find an Al-Anon or ACA Support Group Meeting (and What to Expect)

Thinking about going to an Al-Anon or ACA support group meeting but unsure where to start?

If you grew up with an alcoholic parent—or in a home filled with dysfunction and emotional chaos—you may have spent years trying to hold it all together. You might have become the responsible one, the fixer, the quiet achiever…the one who never needed help.

But the truth is: we do need help. Support group meetings like Al-Anon and ACA can be a life-changing step forward in your healing.

In this post, I’ll guide you through:

• What Al-Anon and ACA are
• How to find a meeting that fits your needs
• What to expect when you attend
• A personal story from my very first meeting
  Let’s make this less scary and a lot more empowering.

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What Are Al-Anon and ACA Meetings?

Al-Anon is a worldwide support program for people affected by someone else’s drinking.
ACA (Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families) is for adults who grew up in alcoholic or emotionally chaotic homes.

Both are based on 12-step recovery and provide safe, judgment-free spaces to heal from the effects of growing up in addiction and dysfunction.

You’ll find:

• Kind, understanding people who get it
• Confidential, pressure-free meetings
• Hope-filled conversations rooted in personal growth

How to Find an Al-Anon or ACA Meeting

It’s easier than ever to attend a meeting—online or in person. Here’s how:

➤ To find an Al-Anon meeting:

Go to al-anon.org and click “Find a Meeting.” You can search by:

• Location
• Day of the week
• Language
• Format (virtual, phone, or in-person)

➤ To find an ACA meeting:

Go to adultchildren.org and click “Find a Meeting.”
You can filter by:

• Meeting type (e.g., speaker meeting, steps study)
• Day
• Format (virtual, phone, or in-person)
• Region or country

What to Expect at Your First Meeting

It’s okay to feel nervous. I sure did. Here’s what a typical meeting looks like:

• Meetings are usually 60 minutes long
• You’ll sit in a circle (in-person)
• A leader reads a statement, then others may share
• First names only. No last names, ever
• You can just listen (and cry if you need to—no one will judge you)
• Everything shared is confidential
• No cost to attend. Donations are optional

You might hear someone say exactly what you’ve been feeling for years. That moment can be incredibly validating.

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My First Al-Anon Meeting: A True Turning Point

I was 26 when I finally went to my first Al-Anon meeting. I parked just seven steps from the door so I couldn’t back out.

I walked down the stairs into a cold church basement, heart pounding, and nearly turned around.

“Why am I the one seeking help? I’m not the one drinking!” I thought.
But I took a deep breath and walked in.

Thirty people smiled. I sat quietly, listening to stories of heartbreak, confusion, and exhaustion—stories that mirrored my own.

And then I surprised myself by speaking:
“Hi… I’m Jody. I’m a mess. I’ve lost control of my life because I’m obsessed with fixing my alcoholic mom. I am lost.”

An older man looked up and gently said,
“Jody, you just put the keys into the ignition. You’re on your way. Life will be better from this point on.”

I believe him and he was right.
That day, I stopped trying to fix everyone else and started taking care of me. Improvement didn’t happen overnight but that first Al-Anon meeting was the catalyst.

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Next Steps

If you’ve been wondering whether a support group could help you heal…
This is your sign.

You’re allowed to take up space.
You’re allowed to be supported.
And you absolutely don’t have to do this alone.

🎥 I talk in detail about my first Al-Anon meeting in my YouTube video. Watch it here: What to Expect at Your First Al-Anon or ACA Meeting (from an Adult Child of an Alcoholic