What Actually Helps You Stop People-Pleasing?
What actually helps you stop people-pleasing is practice in moments small enough that the fear doesn’t hijack you. For me, four things moved the needle:…
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Signs You’ve Built Your Life Around Someone’s Addiction
If you love someone with an addiction, five signs usually reveal that you’ve quietly built your entire life around them: your calendar bends around their…
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Putting Yourself First Isn’t Selfish. I’ll Prove It.
Someone in your life has probably called you selfish for taking care of yourself. Maybe you’ve called yourself that. They were wrong and so were…
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Why Can’t I Relax and Do Nothing?
You can’t relax and do nothing because staying alert once kept you safe. If you grew up reading the room, watching faces, and bracing for…
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The Moment I Stopped Trying to Save My Alcoholic Mom
For more than twenty years, I tried with everything I had to convince my mom to stop drinking — to cure her alcoholism and make…
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How Common Is It to Grow Up With an Alcoholic Parent?
It is far more common than almost anyone realizes: roughly 1 in 4 kids in the United States has at least one parent who abuses…
